Dying for better Liviing

Enlightening lessons death can teach you about life

1. The power of love

A few months after my father died, I found myself stuck. I was angry that he died and angry that I couldn’t do more to help him. With the loving support of the people in my life, I was able to move past the anger and start to focus on the time we had together.

The power of love saw me through those dark days.

If you’re struggling after the death of a loved one, reach out for support and pay homage to your loss by letting your love shine. Although they are no longer with us, our loved ones live on in our hearts, our minds, and our dreams.

Love is universal and transcendent; it knows no boundaries and reaches far beyond the physicality of this world.

2. The power of impermanence

Have you ever experienced a loss and felt like you were losing control? You desperately try to pull in the reigns, but you can’t.

We all like to have a sense of control, and a certain degree is important in terms of our survival. If we don’t organize our lives, follow rules, and work within the structure of society, we’ll find ourselves in a state of chaos.
When someone dies, you realize that life is not permanent and that nothing will last forever no matter how much control you try to exert. This is actually what makes it so profound.

Life is like a rainbow. The light and rain form its beauty, and then it fades. The gold is the shared journey and the profound expression of our lives.

3. The power of acceptance

The grieving process is difficult.

I remember being in denial and saying things like, “I can’t believe it’s true.” I spent a lot of time being mad at the world and myself.

I bargained by thinking, “If only I’d done this” and “I should have done that.” The void of depression took the form of, “I am so sad; I’ll never get past this.”
And finally, I accepted that he was gone and I needed to move forward.

During this process I resisted the reality of my loss. The stages of grief gave me time to come to grips and handle what had happened.

Ultimately, the resistance melted and I was able to lean into life again. You can’t move forward without acceptance.

4. The power of transformation

Loss and struggle hold the seeds of transformation. I don’t think anybody wants to experience pain. I know I sure don’t.

But as I have experienced loss and struggle in my life, I have noticed a pattern: I get stronger, and the seeds of that struggle result in growth.

Life is a continual process of struggle, transformation, and growth. Although it may not always seem obvious, if you look at growth you can always trace it back to the struggle that preceded it.

You may be hurting now but something good is on the horizon.

5. The power of awareness

It is possible to go through long periods of life without ever expanding our consciousness.

Prior to my father’s death, my conscious awareness was limited. I was in a safe, secure bubble, casually going about my life.

I didn’t question life and I didn’t question the choices I made. I was not fully aware; I was not on purpose. I did not have a sense that my time was limited, nor did I get that life was a gift.

Death can initiate the process of expanding your awareness, because it challenges you to question your view of life itself and what you do with yours.

6. The power of presence

So much of life is consumed by the struggle to survive and compete.

I spend most of my time trying to cover my family’s basic needs, striving to succeed, and wading through the bombardment of materialism.

When I find myself getting distracted by the “stuff” in my life, I try to take a step back and focus on the warmer, more soulful parts of me that make me feel alive and present. I take time to get away from the noise and distractions, and focus on spending time with the people in my life.

The paradox of death is that it points to what it means to be alive. Aliveness has to do with experience, connection, and full expression. What makes your feel alive and present?

7. The power of connection

Have you ever stepped outside your ego and connected to something bigger than you?
When you’re on purpose or following your calling, you are guided internally, and yet you are also connecting to something beyond you.

This is the experience I think most of us would like to have, but we get stuck in our ego-based thinking.

Life events like death humble us and open us up to the possibility of waking up and stepping outside our ego. This gives us a chance to connect to something bigger than ourselves and do what is truly important.

“Once you become conscious of death, and experience it, you undertake a new approach to life,

“I want to let people know that they matter, and that someone else would be so sad if they were gone,”

So

I invite you to attend my FAKE funeral workshop to appreciate your own lives, and seek forgiveness and reconciliation with family and friends

You only live once… ONE LYF ONE CHANZ

BETTER LATE THAN NEVER